We are usually taught, directly or indirectly, that to be natural is the most unnatural thing.
When a person begins to explore its sexuality, every discovery is like fireworks taking place. It is so deeply stimulating.
The seek to quench its thirst full of an abiding curiosity towards its uprising hormonal changes and the undiscovered territories of the genitals, is projected and spurred by the smallest of things which also mark the beginning of sexualising things.
Speaking of sexualising things, that which is always “meant” to be kept hidden is usually the first thing to be sexualised. Breasts, genitals, buttocks, legs, back, etc. Even the whole act of sex is sexualised.
But what if it’s not always meant to be sexualised. What else can the act of sex be other than sexual?
Now, imagine it with spoonfuls of emotional connection, consent, deep trust and relaxed awareness. What is there now, is not just an act but something of immense depth. Something inclined towards the cosmic-ness.
To be in such a space is sacred and imagining it is probably easy, but to live side by side integrated with them as a part of our core values is challenging.
I recently came across an article where Osho, an Indian mystic, speaks about sexual abuse and how when children from a younger age are made to understand the phenomena of sex being a beautiful, sacred, expression of love and life, it won’t tolerate abuse as a giver, receiver or as a spectator. It is there where he mentioned, in my understanding a revolutionary suggestion, to have the child present when the parents are making love. And through this make the child understand and educate about sex and love.
This completely stirred me up, and settled profoundly.
And here I am, sharing and writing about the importance of seeing the sacredness even in the mundane. Or rather that which has become mundane over time, I specifically mean the art of making love.
One’s quality of being present with totality and awareness of the intentions behind the doing surely sets the difference.
Having children see their parents have sex is a powerful and groundbreaking concept to be worked around. If and when I have a child of my own I am also definitely considering to clarify certain things. For example : this, for them, is not the age to have sex but rather learn about and see certain aspects of life as it is, to be careful to not objectify your own and someone else’s body, to explore and experiment with sex and finally, celebrate and enjoy. More to it can be added along the journey as you also refine as an individual broadening its horizons.
So, beauties and beauties, allow yourself to open up and experiment with having the quality of inclusiveness with your children, teenagers and young adults. Rediscover everyday life.
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